You know how in Disney movies, the Prince always gives his princess "the look"? You know, it's the look of complete and udder adoration, like they are the most adorable person on the planet. That's crap. No one looks at someone that way. Or so I thought.
I thought I knew what love was before, but boy was I wrong. I was so blind sided by the fact that someone liked me to see that God had other plans for my life. I was so caught up in the fact that a man "loved" me that I didn't bother to consult God about making a decision about dating this man...but yet, I consulted Him about another man that I had my eye on before. Getting an answer of how to go about it, I still ignored Him and went on to date another guy. That was probably a horrible decision on my part. There were so many lessons that were learned from that relationship.
Now to anyone reading this I apologize and I'm sure you don't want to know this information, but I feel like I need to share this with you because I think some of you can learn from it.
Here's the thing; I was reading a book called "The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating" by Andy Stanley. In his book he states the following "sex is a bit like glue. You shouldn't apply it until you're absolutely sure you're ready to stick two things together permanently. Apply it too soon and you'll have a mess once you realize your mistake" he then goes on to talk about how often times when couples are physically involved they often over look the things that would otherwise be on their list of things they aren't looking for in a potential spouse. I felt like I could relate.
I was involved physically with this previous guy and I didn't regret it until he left me because "all the things [he] used to love about [me] he now hates". Those were the words that came out. I was so caught up in the fact that he thought that I was "beautiful", that I failed to see that God had someone else in mind for me the whole time and all I had to do was invite this man to dinner several months before. I failed to go with my gut instinct that this man was not a Christian, that he didn't necessarily believe in God, he didn't love Jesus as much as I did. I failed to realize that we were unequally yoked.
As Christian's it's very important that when we are looking for the person we are going to marry that we are equally yoked. By this I simply mean that we are at almost the same place in our relationship with God. We both place Him at the center of our lives, so that if it is in God's intended plan that we put God at the center of our relationship. And that is what I have found.
When I first met my now boyfriend, I prayed about what place we would hold in each others lives, I asked God about it, and I felt like I should say something to him but I didn't because I wasn't sure how he felt or if he even knew I existed. So, I let it go and moved on. Bad idea. After things ended with said boyfriend above, I began focusing more on my relationship with God and trusted that He would provide me with a man when we were both ready. Well, turns out we were both ready sooner than expected. My now boyfriend and I met up one night and we have been hanging out ever since. One night we went to see a movie and had dinner. We didn't consider a date until after the night was over. We were talking and we agreed that we would pray about what place we would hold in each other's lives, and guess what??? He prayed for us right there, out loud, in the hallway of the movie theater. Since that day we have been continuing to fall in love with each other.
So, thank you to my boyfriend for loving Jesus as much as me and for showing me what true love really is.
My point is, it gets better. You will find someone, just trust in God's timing. It may not be perfect for you but it's perfect for Him. Have faith. Don't waste your life wishing things would've turned out differently, just have faith, hope and trust in the Lord.
Find a man who not only Pays for you but Prays for you.
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